Date:4- An Encourager

Preface: It's incredibly easy to focus on your partners faults everything they do wrong. "You didn't wipe up the table after dinner.", "you made the dinner to spicy", "you got toothpaste on the mirror", "your a terrible driver". But focus to much on what you don't like about your spouse the harder it will be to see what wonderful about them.  I will admit I catch myself doing this sometimes thinking of what he does wrong. I focus on him not wiping the counters instead of him washing the dishes and taking out the trash. He's done the same to me focusing on how hot the dinner is (which he hates spicy foods) instead of the fact that I took the time to prepare it. Everyone marriage is a garden but if you just focus on the weeds they will grow and the rest of the wonderful parts will wither away. It's important for every couple to focus on  the positive aspect of there relationship not just the weeds in the garden but the flowers and everything good about your relationship.  Acknowledging each-other positive  qualities. We both deiced to focus more on the positive qualities and get back the fun parts of our relationship. 

DATE TIME:  For this date we where short on time it was late night on a Friday we both had work long hours that day and didn't plan an exciting date. We decided to get fast food so neither of us had to cook. Then we make awkward puns and and laughed with each-other it wasn't adventurous but it gave us time to hangout and just enjoy being around each-other. which isn't something we've gotten to do a lot lately. It reminded me again for all the things I like about Chase. Taking the time to just sit back and remember why we love each-other and why we are together was an important reminder of why we are in this. The date gave us time to see the positives in  one another. At the end of the date we set a goal of trying to have more fun together and getting back to a time when we use to laugh all the time and do things just so that we could laugh about it later.We decided that in order to be more positive with each-other we wanted to laugh more with one another so we started sending text through the day of what the other might think is funny and just getting back to finding humor in our lives.