Date:2 Learning to Commuicate

Preface: I am a terrible communicator, I hate voicing my options I hate talking,  I hate having to sit down and solve augments. I'd literally could go days without talking and would be so happy. Our lips our seal is my anthem... Ok now I'm taking it a bit far. What you need to know is I am bad at communicating and Chase (the husband) is a talker and loves to communicate anytime something is even remotely off he wants to solve it. So this lesson/Date was for me. So start off we read the 10 Dates lesson for Date 2 and communication. Which let me go over the basic points with you are, to use communications to help build your relationships intimacy and not including sleeping the average couple spends as little as 30 minutes together and with me and my husband both working I can see this happening.  

1:  Chattering: Surface conversation, did you sleep well? Did you take out the trash? not really getting at the depth of anything that's going on
2: Confronting:  Includes statements like:  "you don't listen to me!" "why would you do that" is anything that is meant to hurt a spouse or attack them in anyway. 
3: Connecting: This is the one we should all be striving to do as much as possible. both parties are vulnerable and willing to share there feelings and be open with one another is is the type of communication where relationships grow and is what we should all be striving to do. 
 
After reading these I realized I still don't like being vulnerable its a exposed feeling where you have to put yourself completely out there to your spouse and trust they will listen and seek to understand. I don't like it but it's completely necessary to feeling connected. 

DATE TIME:  we went to a dance and ate dinner we have no picture of us dancing because those never need to be on the internet but there is one of the 4 brownies Chase took.  Not including the 2 he put in my purse for home. Dancing is not something either of u like or enjoy but it was a good opportunity to get outside of our box and just be silly with each other I highly recommend doing something with your spouse that puts you both outside of your box and allows both of you to feel vulnerable together. 
 
We had loads of fun and since we don't see a lot of each other anymore is was a perfect opportunity to be able to just have fun together. after the dance we got to actually sit down and connect we where able to to discuss how we were feeling using I statement and not attacking of defending ourselves We shared our feelings and both realized we both wanted more positive things said so we made a goal to have kindness minute at the end of each day where we say one or more nice things we liked about what the other person did that day.