Date 5: Finding Unity in Diversity

Preface:this let me just say me and Chase are very similar in many ways we are both quirky, have a similar since of humor, we both love food, we both hate crowds. We'd both rather spend a evening at home rather than going out to a dance or something. We share a lot of core beliefs, religion is important to both of us, we share similar views of family and how a house should be structured.  But for all our similarities we are both still quite different people. He is more outgoing and loves board games,video games and problem solving he'd rather talk everything through and never cook a day in his life. I prefer Pintreast and baking I hate having to make new friends and struggle getting to know people. These are minor differences but we have others and sometimes our differences get in the way of us getting along. 

What we learned from the book: As you can guess this weeks book chapter was on diversity in a relationship and knowing our differences. There and many kind of differences it's important to assess your strengths and weaknesses with your spouse. Its also important to figure out where you fit on the 8 continuum with your spouse. 
1.) Public Person or Private Person: 
2.)Spontaneous or Planner :
3.)Live Wire or Laid Back:
4.) Early Bird or Night Owl
5.)Feeling Oriented or Fact Oriented
6.)Time Focused or Not Time Focused  
7.) Spender or Saver
8.)Introvert or Extrovert 

Figuring out where you fall on these continuum's and where you spouse falls is an important part to help you understand your relationship with them better. Being on opposite ends of the scale is not a bad thing as long as your remember that you are there to help balance each-other out Your differences are a good thing. it's important to find a balance and to help grow your strengthens and your partners together.  

DATE TIME: This week because of the unusually good weekend weather  we decided to go hiking near where we live in the evening and got to watch a beautiful sunset together. It was a wonderful time to just relax together and have time to discuss the content from earlier in the week from the book. We figured out where we both lie on our continuum's and where we have our greatest strengths and  our weaknesses and how we can help one another improve and become better. We learned to better appreciate our differences for example I love to bake and chase hate to be in the kitchen at all but he loves eating home cooked meals so he appreciates that strength of mine. I hate talking to new people but Chase always has to introduce himself I've learned to appreciate this because other wise I would know the new people I know now. We also have areas where we are very similar because we both a introvert we realized this is an area we can get out of our shells together and use each-other to get out more and hangout with others. We were created different for a reason and it is those differences that bring a balance to our marriage.