Date 6: Building a Creative Love Life

 Preface: This book chapter was on physical intimacy without going into detail we just got married we're doing fine. But sex in longer relationships often does get put on the back burner life happen children other responsibility, sometimes its hard to make time.That being said You and your partner should be able to have a open dialogue about sex. Your wants your needs what you feel conformable with what you don't like. Sex is a important part of any married relationship and is something you need to be able to talk about with each other. 


What We Learned From The Book: there are 4 main potholes that any relationship can fall into that you have to be aware of . 
1.)Boredom-When you stop touching one-another and put sex on the back burner
2.)Adventure Lust-When it stops being about having and pleasing your partner and more about what new thing can we do.
3.)Affairs-Not just cheating physically but emotionally as well.
4.)Pornography- Changes normal sexual response cycle. 

But having a intimate relationship is about more than sex you have to keep you relationship multidimensional. 
1.) Trust: You have to be able to count on one another
2.) Mutuality: remembering this is a choice and together choosing to love one another. 
3.) Talking: being open and vulnerable about your needs even if it's awkward at first.  
4.)Knowing and Being Known: having the emotional connection before the physical connection
5.) Giving and Receiving : Cuddling, holding hands, touching, Kissing
6.) Focusing on the love you feel for your partner. 

This steps help lead to not only a better sex life but a more intimate relationship with your partner. Our goal is to remember to keep our love life and our inanimate relationship a priority just not just sex but everything else as well. 

DATE TIME: For our date we built a fort and watched the walking dead in it and had treats.It was great we got to snuggle and hold hands and kissing and just enjoying close and private it might not be for everyone but for us it was romantic and fun. We did what felt comfortable for us. As a couple we know what each other likes and dislikes and our wants it just felt natural. I give the same advice to any other couple just talk about it with one another do what feels natural focus less on the motions and more about just being with your partner and pleasing each-other and having fun. We had a good night no pressures no worries just each-other some cuddling a mutual activity and that was more than enough at the end of the day I'm just lucky to be with him and being close makes me realize that.